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Relationship Builder For Men
I had a business partner who was giving tons of speeches and presentations. They asked him why he loved giving presentations? His answer was “I hate it and I am bad at it, I hate getting in front of audiences”. So we asked him “If you hate getting up in front of audiences, why do you continue to give presentations?” His answer was so “he could overcome his public speaking issues”.
Ok, a very clever answer.
This pretty much sums up my history of being single and trying to meet women. And it is pretty much the same deal and be good at keeping a relationship. Today I am more than 12 years happily married, but that was not always the case.
I was terrible at meeting women. Though I would go out on dates and periodically acquire a girlfriend, usually one with some quirkiness, I always have been bad at relationships. I got married when I was 42 for the first time. I don’t know how to flirt and I pretty much don’t remember to get gifts sometimes and often I forget about things that are needed in my current relationship. I guess because I have made it past 14 years I must be doing something right!
The bottom line is all relationships take time, careful thought, and nurturing. But most of all they require repeat and rinse. That’s a weird thing to say about relationships, but for men, it makes sense.
